Archive | January, 2012

Islamic Nikaah Contract (Conditions and Pre-Nup)

31 Jan

Options for an Islamic prenuptial agreement

By Sound Vision Staff Writer

A prenuptial agreement (which is also called an antenuptial) agreement is a contract entered into by a couple planning to be married.

This contract specifies the married couple to be’s individual rights throughout the marriage and if their marriage should end.

This agreement must be in writing, signed by both parties, and in some states of the United States, signed before witnesses and entered into the court records.

Prenuptial agreements and the rights of Muslims in marriage

But prenuptial agreements don’t just have to cover issues pertaining to wealth and property. They can also be used to safeguard your Islamic rights within a marriage and, if necessary, in the case of divorce.

Imam Yusuf Ziya Kavakci is Imam of the Dallas Central Mosque in Richardson, Texas. He has a Ph.D. in Islamic law from the Institute of Islamic Research of Istanbul University in Turkey. He strongly recommends Muslim couples sign a prenuptial agreement before getting married. Here’s what he had to say about this in an interview with Sound Vision:

It is good and necessary to benefit from the law of the land and to get its protection in terms of documentation, in terms of court systems.

For this purpose, I think no Muslim marriage be performed without having a marriage license given by marriage offices of the state. These marriage licenses with their blank spaces may be used by Islamic centers, by Imams in their marriage contracts and everything could be recorded on that paper.

In this context, Muslims could benefit from the prenuptial agreement system by writing down all conditions they would observe in their married life including following Islam and Shariah and that conflicts will be solved by mediation and arbitration.

So couples may prepare these prenuptial marriage agreements, with their signatures on them and get them notarized. Then the rights of couples according to their belief system will be guaranteed and practiced in any condition everywhere in the world.

Prenuptial agreements come before the law of the land when conflict arises. So this is a nice opportunity for Muslims to guarantee their rights of Islamic belief and also to let Islamic law be applied on their family life.

Some clauses that Muslims have put in their contracts

A prenuptial agreement seems to give more strength to the Islamic marriage contract and the conditions placed therein. Muslim men and women are allowed to put conditions in the marriage contract, provided that they do not contradict Islamic law.

Below are some things Muslims have or may put in writing in their marriage contracts include.

Disclaimer: Many of the items below are not in agreement with others. Nor are the conditions below recommendations from Sound Vision.

We strongly urge anyone who is considering putting conditions or any of the following clauses in their marriage contract or working out a prenuptial agreement with their spouse-to-be to consult a qualified Islamic scholar as well as a Muslim lawyer well grounded in marriage and divorce law of the land.

  • both husband and wife agree to discuss all issues that arise in their marriage and arrive at mutually agreeable conclusions. Differences of opinion concerning a point of Islamic practice will be referred to the Quran and Hadith. Both will admit if they are simply expressing personal opinions, which will not be binding.
  • none of them will have a right to physically hurt each other.
  • the husband must learn to speak and read Arabic fluently.
  • that the husband will not require the wife to move out of her home town.
  • the wife will bring all twenty of her cats to live in her husband’s house.
  • husband and wife both will share responsibilities of cooking, cleaning and other homemaking tasks.
  • income of husband and wife both will be pooled together in one account operable by each one individually with mutual consent.
  • husband will not exercise his option of another wife
  • husband is the leader of the family who will run the family in consultation with the wife.
  • wife will not be required to work outside the home. If she chooses to work, she will be not be stopped from it and she will not be required to share that income for the family needs.
  • wife will not work to earn money without the consent of husband.
  • wife will be solely responsible for homemaking.
  • children will be raised as Muslims in home and through Islamic education.
  • home will be run Islamically as described in the Quran and Hadith
  • Children will not be taken to church.
  • A court granted divorce will be considered, Islamically, a first level of Talaq (divorce), which has a room for remarrying the same person without any condition.
  • husband or wife will facilitate each other’s Islamic work and will not stop each other from it.
  • in case of a dispute, husband and wife will appoint one person each to arbitrate between them
  • if either husband or a wife suggests marriage counseling, the other party must agree to it.
  • husband will not ask wife to stop her Islamic practices like Hijab
  • if anyone indulges in Haram (what is forbidden), it will be an acceptable ground for divorce.
  • in case of divorce, children will be with Muslim spouse and will be raised Muslims.
  • in case of any spouse’s death, the surviving spouse will be responsible for the distribution of inheritance according to the Islamic law.
  • family will not move out to another country without mutual agreement.
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Syria Uses Israeli Weapons

31 Jan
Syrian media outlets reported Friday that:
Syrian television showcased the weapons Friday evening and claimed that some of the arms originated in Israel. Some of the weapons featured Hebrew inscriptions, yet it was unclear who was holding the arms and where the images were photographed.The latest Syrian reports are apparently meant to discourage anti-Assad rebels and present them as traitors who enlist the help of the “Zionist enemy” in their battle against President Assad. Notably, this was not the first time that images of weapons allegedly produced by Israel emerged during the so-called “Arab Spring.” In previous cases, both government forces and rebels used such images to portray their foes as traitors. Last year, shortly after the beginning of the Libyan uprising against Muammar Gaddafi’s rule, rebels presented weapons they claimed originated in Israel and were used by Gaddafi’s forces.

Somali Radio Station vs al-Shabab-Al Jazeera

31 Jan

Threatened for years by both the Islamist al-Shabab group and circles within the government, a Somali radio station has lost its third director since 2007.

Hassan Osman Abdi, who headed Radio Shabelle, was stopped by two men as he was entering the gate of his home on Saturday. He was shot several times, according to Mohamed Moalim, a relative.

The 29-year-old father of three was the most recent of the station’s five journalists killed for doing his job in one of the most dangerous places in the world for reporters.

“We have been targeted because of our uncensored editorial policy,” Mohamed Amiin Adow, a representative for the station, told Al Jazeera. “We try to expose every part of Somalia of what they are doing to the public. We are targeted for our independence.”

The National Union of Somali Journalists (NUSOJ) strongly condemned the incident.

“We send our deepest condolences and sympathies to the families and friends … while we call the Transitional Federal government to investigate the shooting to death of the journalist,” Mohamed Ibrahim, NUSOJ secretary-general, said.

Going by previous murders, there is little hope that Abdi’s killers will be booked for their crime. There has been no investigations into the past killings, Adow said.

“[Abdi] and the rest of our staff received threats daily from al-Shabab [and said] that we are spreading propaganda. Al-Shabab has banned our frequency in their areas of control.

“Absolutely, we are sure it is al-Shabab,” he said.

Constant threats

The private station, one of the largest in Somalia, was set up in 2002 outside Mogadishu. But after a series of threats and after being forced to stop playing music by al-Shabab, they moved closer to the city’s airport, where they resumed broadcasting as usual.  

The recipient of several journalism awards, including the 2010 Press Freedom Prize, the station has 80 reporters across the country, funded by advertisement revenue and aid from relief organisations.

About a hundred of their reporters have fled the country, Ali Abdi, Shabelle’s head of international relations, said upon receiving the award in Paris.

“But we will not be intimidated. We are determined to continue our struggle for independent journalists and respect for human rights,” he said.

The station has also been targeted by the government for its attempts to publicise corruption cases.

In-depth coverage of the regional political crisis

“We focus on the government, especially for corruption. Sometimes we find threats from them. The government threatens to arrest our journalists,” Adow, the station representative, said. 

In 2007, the government arrested 19 of its journalists for questioning. The same year, government forces reportedly besieged and fired on the station.

Radio Shabelle has had to hire 10 private security guards because of security risks and journalists on assignment are often accompanied by the guards.

Media rights campaigners have repeatedly expressed concern about the difficult conditions that journalists work under in Somalia.

The Committee to Protect Journalists has accused the transitional government of intimidating and persecuting reporters.

Reporters Without Borders (RSF), reported in December that 25 journalists had been killed in Somalia since 2007.

“Violence against journalists in Somalia is sustained by impunity for those responsible,” RSF said.

Racism Story

30 Jan
This happened on TAM airlines.

A 50-something year old white woman arrived at her seat and saw that the passenger next to her was a black man. Visibly furious, she called the air hostess.

“What’s the problem, ma?” the hostess asked her
“Can’t you see?” the lady said – “I was given a seat next to a black man. I can’t seat here next to him. You have to change my seat”

– “Please, calm down, ma” – said the hostess
“Unfortunately, all the seats are occupied, but I’m still going to check if we have any.”

The hostess left and returned some minutes later.

“Madam, as I told you, there isn’t any empty seat in this class- economy class.
But I spoke to the captain and he confirmed that there isn’t any empty seats in the economy class. We only have seats in the first class.”

And before the woman said anything, the hostess continued

“Look, it is unusual for our company to allow a passenger from the economy class change to the first class.
However, given the circumstances, the commandant thinks that it would be a scandal to make a passenger travel sat next to an unpleasant person.”

And turning to the black man, the hostess said:

“Which means, Sir, if you would be so nice to pack your handbag, we have reserved you a seat in the first class…”

And all the passengers nearby, who were shocked to see the scene started applauding, some standing on their feet.”

Love

30 Jan

 

At first glance you think why would they be holding each other like that in front of the kabah but do not judge for you know not…Look carefully, he is standing on one leg and his wife is helping him. May Allah reward them and grant them janatul firdaus. Allahumma Ameen. Very sweet picture mashaAllah ♥

Quotes

27 Jan

“When she is a daughter, she opens a door of Jannah for her father. When she is a wife, she completes half of the deen of her husband. When she is a mother, Jannah lies under her feet – If everyone knew the true status of a muslim women in Islaam, even the men would want to be women” [Akram Nadawi]

‎”Don’t be sad if Allah separates you from something or someone you love. If only we knew what His plans were for us, our hearts would melt with the warmth of His love.”

Be aware of every hour and how it passes and only spend it in the best possible way; do not neglect yourself, but keep accustomed to the noblest and best of actions, and send to your grave that which will please you when you arrive to it. Imaam ibn Al-Jawzee

When someone makes a mistake and commits a error, we are quick to jump to conclusions about them and we start bashing them. However, some of our pious predecessors would encourage us to find up to 70 excuses for our fellow brothers and sisters, and if we can’t, we can say “maybe he/she has an excuse that I’m not aware of!” And this reminder could be exhibited in our everyday interactions.

When you are with your spouse or brothers/sisters, try only to use positive words that will benefit you instead of using harsh ones that hurt your relationship. Indeed, you can disagree with other people, but how you disagree will be what matters! We are told,

“Tell My worshipers, that they should say words that are the finest, satan would arouse discord among them; he is the clear enemy of mankind” (17:53)
To love without condition, to talk without intention, listen without judging, to give without reason and to care without expectation.
So let’s not let Satan bring enmity amongst us and win. Indeed, he is our enemy so let’s treat him as such.

What is this world but a dream that a sleeper sees – he delights in it for a few moments, and then wakes up to face reality. Scholar: Al-Hasan Al-Basree

 Five things are associated with difficulty in life: the heart is hard, the eyes do not shed tears, to have limited haya, to desire the material world, and to have lengthy hopes/desires in your life. Scholar Name: Al-Fudayl ibn ‘Iyaad

It’s my honour that You are my Master. It’s my dignity that I am Your slave.

Can You Marry Without Parent’s Permission?

25 Jan

can a boy and a girl can marry without the permission of their parents ? if their parents delay their marriage without any solid reason ?

According to the Hanafi Madhab, an adult male and female has an independent right to marry. 

The consent of the parents is not necessary for the validity of the marriage. However, it is advisable not to marry without the blessings and Du?aa of one?s parents. The negative consequences of marrying without the parents blessings may be more than delaying the marriage. 

and Allah Ta’ala Knows Best 

Mufti Ebrahim Desa