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What Shaitan Does (Hadith)

12 Feb

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Muhammad – sal Allahu alayhi wassalaam – said that yawning is from Satan.

The Prophet said, “Yawning is from Satan and if anyone of you yawns, he should check his yawning as much as possible, for if anyone of you (during the act of yawning) should say: ‘Ha’, Satan will laugh at him.” Volume 4, Book 54, Number 509: Narrated Abu Huraira:

Muhammad – sal Allahu alayhi wassalaam – said that yawning is from Satan and that Allah likes sneezing and dislikes yawning.

The Prophet said, “Allah likes sneezing and dislikes yawning, so if someone sneezes and then praises Allah, then it is obligatory on every Muslim who heard him, to say: May Allah be merciful to you (Yar-hamuka-l-lah). But as regards yawning, it is from Satan, so one must try one’s best to stop it, if one says ‘Ha’ when yawning, Satan will laugh at him.” Volume 8, Book 73, Number 242: Narrated Abu Huraira: See also Volume 8, Book 73, Number 245:, Narrated Abu Huraira:

Muhammad – sal Allahu alayhi wassalaam – said a good dream is from Allah and a bad dream is from Satan.

The Prophet said, “A good dream is from Allah, and a bad or evil dream is from Satan; so if anyone of you has a bad dream of which he gets afraid, he should spit on his left side and should seek Refuge with Allah from its evil, for then it will not harm him.” Volume 4, Book 54, Number 513: Narrated Abu Qatada:

I heard the Prophet saying, “A good dream is from Allah, and a bad dream is from Satan. So if anyone of you sees (in a dream) something he dislikes, when he gets up he should blow thrice (on his left side) and seek refuge with Allah from its evil for then it will not harm him.” Volume 7, Book 71, Number 643: Narrated Abu Qatada:

The Prophet said, “A good dream is from Allah, and a bad dream is from Satan. So whoever has seen (in a dream) something he dislike, then he should spit without saliva, thrice on his left and seek refuge with Allah from Satan, for it will not harm him, and Satan cannot appear in my shape.” Volume 9, Book 87, Number 124: Narrated Abu Qatada:

Muhammad – sal Allahu alayhi wassalaam – said that Satan stayed in the upper part of a nose all night.

The Prophet said, “If anyone of you rouses from sleep and performs the ablution, he should wash his nose by putting water in it and then blowing it out thrice, because Satan has stayed in the upper part of his nose all the night.” Volume 4, Book 54, Number 516: Narrated Abu Huraira:

Muhammad – sal Allahu alayhi wassalaam – said a cock crows because it has seen an angel and donkeys bray because they have seen Satan.

The Prophet said, “When you hear the crowing of cocks, ask for Allah’s Blessings for (their crowing indicates that) they have seen an angel. And when you hear the braying of donkeys, seek Refuge with Allah from Satan for (their braying indicates) that they have seen a Satan.” Volume 4, Book 54, Number 522: Narrated Abu Huraira:

Muhammad – sal Allahu alayhi wassalaam – said that Satan touches all human offspring making them cry.

Abu Huraira said, “I heard Allah’s Apostle saying, ‘There is none born among the off-spring of Adam, but Satan touches it. A child therefore, cries loudly at the time of birth because of the touch of Satan, except Mary and her child.” Then Abu Huraira recited: “And I seek refuge with You for her and for her offspring from the outcast Satan” (3.36) Volume 4, Book 55, Number 641:Narrated Said bin Al-Musaiyab:Also, same thing at Volume 6, Book 60, Number 71:, Narrated Said bin Al-Musaiyab:

Muhammad – sal Allahu alayhi wassalaam – said that devils spread out at night time and that Satan does not open a closed door.

Allah’s Apostle said, “When night falls (or when it is evening), stop your children from going out, for the devils spread out at that time. But when an hour of the night has passed, release them and close the doors and mention Allah’s Name, for Satan does not open a closed door. Tie the mouth of your water-skin and mention Allah’s Name; cover your containers and utensils and mention Allah’s Name. Cover them even by placing something across it, and extinguish your lamps.” Volume 7, Book 69, Number 527: Narrated Jabir bin ‘Abdullah

Muhammad – sal Allahu alayhi wassalaam – said a child born from a union where a parent said a “phrase,” Satan cannot harm the child.

The Prophet said, “If anyone of you, when intending to have a sexual intercourse with his wife, says: ‘Bismillah, Allahumma jannibna-sh-shaitan, wa jannibi-sh-shaitan ma razaqtana,’ and if the couple are destined to have a child (out of that very sexual relation), then Satan will never be able to harm that child.” Volume 8, Book 75, Number 397: Narrated Ibn ‘Abbas:

Muhammad said that during sleep Satan ties knots at the back of the head.

Allah’s Apostle said, “During your sleep, Satan knots three knots at the back of the head of each of you, and he breathes the following words at each knot, ‘The night is, long, so keep on sleeping,’ If that person wakes up and celebrates the praises of Allah, then one knot is undone, and when he performs ablution the second knot is undone, and when he prays, all the knots are undone, and he gets up in the morning lively and gay, otherwise he gets up dull and gloomy.” Volume 4, Book 54, Number 491: Narrated Abu Huraira:

Muhammad – sal Allahu alayhi wassalaam – said that Satan peed in the ear of a man.

It was mentioned before the Prophet that there was a man who slept the night till morning (after sunrise). The Prophet said, “He is a man in whose ears (or ear) Satan had urinated.” Volume 4, Book 54, Number 492: Narrated ‘Abdullah:

Muhammad – sal Allahu alayhi wassalaam – said Satan can not impersonate him in a dream.

The Prophet said, “Name yourselves with my name (use my name) but do not name yourselves with my Kunya name (i.e. Abu-l Qasim). And whoever sees me in a dream then surely he has seen me for Satan cannot impersonate me. And whoever tells a lie against me (intentionally), then (surely) let him occupy his seat in Hell-fire.” Volume 1, Book 3, Number 110: Narrated Abu Huraira: Also at Volume 8, Book 73, Number 217: Narrated Abu Huraira:

Muhammad – sal Allahu alayhi wassalaam – said earthquakes and afflictions come out of the side of the head of Satan.

(The Prophet) said, “O Allah! Bless our Sham and our Yemen.” People said, “Our Najd as well.” The Prophet again said, “O Allah! Bless our Sham and Yemen.” They said again, “Our Najd as well.” On that the Prophet said, “There will appear earthquakes and afflictions, and from there will come out the side of the head of Satan.” Volume 2, Book 17, Number 147: Narrated Ibn ‘Umar:

Muhammad – sal Allahu alayhi wassalaam – choked Satan

The Prophet once offered the prayer and said, “Satan came in front of me and tried to interrupt my prayer, but Allah gave me an upper hand on him and I choked him. No doubt, I thought of tying him to one of the pillars of the mosque till you get up in the morning and see him. Then I remembered the statement of Prophet Solomon, ‘My Lord ! Bestow on me a kingdom such as shall not belong to any other after me.’ Then Allah made him (Satan) return with his head down (humiliated).” Volume 2, Book 22, Number 301, Narrated Abu Huraira

Muhammad – sal Allahu alayhi wassalaam – said Satan passes wind and runs so he may not hear the Adhan (call to prayer).

Allah’s Apostle said, “When the Adhan for the prayer is pronounced, then Satan takes to his heels passing wind so that he may not hear the Adhan and when the Muadh-dhin finishes, he comes back; Volume 2, Book 22, Number 313: Narrated Abu Huraira,

Allah’s Apostle said, “When the call for prayer is made, Satan takes to his heels passing wind so that he may not hear the Adhan and when the call is finished he comes back, and when the Iqama is pronounced, Satan again takes to his heels, Volume 2, Book 22, Number 323, Narrated Abu Huraira:

Muhammad – sal Allahu alayhi wassalaam – said that when praying while standing, Satan puts doubts into the person.

Allah’s Apostle said, “When anyone of you stands for the prayers, Satan comes and puts him in doubts till he forgets how many Rakat he has prayed. So if this happens to anyone of you, he should perform two prostrations of Sahu while sitting. Volume 2, Book 22, Number 324: Narrated Abu Huraira:

Muhammad – sal Allahu alayhi wassalaam – said that Satan can reach into a person’s body the same as blood reaches it.

Safiya, the wife of the Prophet told me that she went to Allah’s Apostle to visit him in the mosque while he was in Itikaf in the last ten days of Ramadan. She had a talk with him for a while, then she got up in order to return home. The Prophet accompanied her. When they reached the gate of the mosque, opposite the door of Um-Salama, two Ansari men were passing by and they greeted Allah’s Apostle . He told them: Do not run away! And said, “She is (my wife) Safiya bint Huyai.” Both of them said, “Subhan Allah, (How dare we think of any evil) O Allah’s Apostle!” And they felt it. The Prophet said (to them), “Satan reaches everywhere in the human body as blood reaches in it, (everywhere in one’s body). I was afraid lest Satan might insert an evil thought in your minds.” Volume 3, Book 33, Number 251: Narrated Ali bin Al-Husain: Also, see 254

Muhammad – sal Allahu alayhi wassalaam – said affliction comes out of the side of Satan’s head.

The Prophet stood up and delivered a sermon, and pointing to ‘Aisha’s house (i.e. eastwards), he said thrice, “Affliction (will appear from) here,” and, “from where the side of the Satan’s head comes out (i.e. from the East).” Volume 4, Book 53, Number 336: Narrated ‘Abdullah:

I saw Allah’s Apostle pointing towards the east saying, “Lo! Afflictions will verily emerge hence; afflictions will verily emerge hence where the (side of the head of) Satan appears.” Volume 4, Book 54, Number 499: Narrated ‘Abdullah bin ‘Umar:

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Man in the form of Allah swt?

8 Feb

How Should the Hadith Allah created man in the form of Rahman (the All-Merciful, Most Gracious). Be Understood?


YazdırSend to friendAllah is free of matter and form. As a matter of fact, in the glorious Hadith it isnt said Allah created man in the form of his own. What is essential here is to draw attention to the mercy of Allah and to instruct that the Divine mercy is manifested on man the most. When the word man is uttered, thinking of mans body first may lead us to wrong results. The fundamental aspect of man is his spirit. The body is like the assistant, clothes and the residence of that spirit. Then, while reading that Hadith we will take our spirit into account and read the manifestations of mercy extending from intelligence to imagination, from memory to the world of senses and will give thanks to Rahman who created us in this fashion.

It is said that every being who is freed from the darkness of non-existence reaches a great mercy. Mercy, with this definition, is manifested on every beings living or nonliving. Mercy is dominant on every creature from the stars of the sky to the fish of the sea, from the rays to the angels, from a half-living plant to man; all of them are more or less, partial or universal recipients of mercy.

The Noble Prophet (PBUH) expresses this utmost manifestation of mercy which man has attained in one of his glorious Hadiths as follows: Doubtlessly, Allah created man in the form of Rahman. Some points must be taken into consideration in order not to judge this glorious Hadith wrongly. In the glorious Hadith, the names of Allah, Rahman and the act of creating are mentioned.

God Almighty is free from matter and form. However, when a person reads this Hadith, his nafs (soul) and Satan seduces his imagination and they try to convince him that the Hadith means Allah created man in the form of his own. It must be paid attention especially to the name Rahman, and that word of truth must be regarded as The mercy of Allah is manifested mostly on the face of man among all the existing realms. 

Appearance exists for matters and for material beings. The material body of man is the assistant of his spirit. Then, when man is in question, firstly, spirit should be understood. Mans spirit is the best indication that Allah is free from matter and form. Then, how could man interpret the word form in that glorious Hadith wrongly? 

Another important word in that Hadith is the word created. The body of man is a creature, so is his soul and so are all of the attributes of that soul. Some attributes are bestowed to our spirits such as knowledge, will and power in order to be a guide for believing Almighty Gods attributes. Certainly, those created attributes do not resemble Divine attributes by any means, they only indicate those attributes.

A form could not be assumed for any of those Divine attributes; nor could a form, a shape be assumed for the entire of them. While interpreting that glorious Hadith, it must be taken into account that a clerk does not resemble his scripture, a craftsman does not resemble his work and the Creator does not resemble his creatures. Only this way will it be possible for man to be free from unreal assumptions and deceitful fantasies.

There are significant clues and precious guidance signs in the Flashes from the Risale-i Nur Collection regarding the issue: Some Sufis considered mans spiritual nature to be in the form of Rahman; it is added that while discussing the matter, sights point to mans realms of spirit, heart, intelligent and emotions and so the material face of the body is not considered. In the Rays from the Risale-i Nur Collection it is informed that the concentration of the names is manifested on the faces of living beings, which are the fruits of the tree of creation.

From that statement, it is understood that not only man, but also the other living beings have the form of Rahman due to manifesting the Attributes of God and reflecting the Divine Names. Therefore, when man is looked at in order to draw a lesson, all of the Attributes and Names of Allah could be read. When we think that all of those manifestations, for man, are of sheer Divine mercy, we seem to be watching the truth of mercifulness. The Divine attributes and names could be watched on every being, but the most luminous and the brightest indications can be perceived on man. No other being is created who is more advanced than man about being an indication of Divine attributes and names, manifesting and reflecting them. 

Just as we recall white when the word black is uttered, the word form reminds the words character and truth to our minds. The images of the letters are their forms. Those forms indicate a meaning. For example, knowledge is a meaning, a superiority and a merit. The image of the word knowledge is a form indicating us that meaning. Otherwise, looking for knowledge among the letters, surely, is not correct.

Mans spiritual nature is as a word or a form conveying us the lesson of the meaning of Rahman. Our heart, intelligence, memory, imagination and altogether the realm of our emotions always us about the mercy and remind Rahman.
This manifestation has been reflected to our body, which is the residence of our spirit. Everything, we have from our tongue to teeth, from hair to nail, from lungs to kidneys, is a bounty of Rahman. Each of them is a word and a form. The blessings and the favors of Rahman can be read on all of them. As a result, it can be summarized as the brightest mirror and the nicest manifestation of the mercy of Allah.

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Duaa’s (Before Sleeping)

8 Feb

The Prophet (S) also said: ‘When you are about to sleep recite aayat-ul-kursiyy till the end of the verse for there will remain over you a protection from Allaah and no devil will draw near to you until morning.’

The Prophet (S) also said: ‘Whoever recites the last two verses of Suurah Al-Baqarah at night, those two verses shall be sufficient for him.’

‘If one of you rises from his bed and then returns to it he should dust it with the edge of his garment three times for he does not know what has occurred in his absence and when he lies down he should supplicate:

‘In Your name my Lord, I lie down and I in Your name I rise, so if You should take my soul then have mercy upon it, and if You should return my soul then protect it in the manner You do so with Your righteous servants.’

In Arabic Dua in Arabic
In English ‘O Allaah, verily You have created my soul and You shall take it’s life, to You belongs it’s life and death. If You should keep my soul alive then protect it, and if You should take its life then forgive it. O Allaah, I ask You to grant me good health.’
Dua in Arabic
In English The Prophet (S) would place his right hand under his cheek when about to sleep and supplicate:

‘O Allaah, protect me from Your punishment on the day Your servants are resurrected.’ (three times)

Dua in ArabicIn English‘In Your name O Allaah, I live and die.’

In Arabic Dua in Arabic
In English ‘Shall I not direct you both to something better than a servant? When you go to bed say:

(i)

‘How Perfect Allaah is.’(thirty-three times)

(ii)

‘All praise is for Allaah.’(thirty-three times)

(iii)

‘Allaah is the greatest.’(thirty-four times)

…for that is indeed better for you both than a servant.’

In Arabic Dua in Arabic
In English ‘O Allaah, Lord of the seven heavens and the exalted throne, our Lord and Lord of all things, Splitter of the seed and the date stone, Revealer of theTowraah, the Injeel and the Furqaan, I take refuge in You from the evil of all things You shall seize by the forelock. O Allaah, You are The First so there is nothing before You and You are The Last so there is nothing after You. You are Ath-Thaahir so there is nothing above You and You are Al-Baatin so there is nothing closer than You. Settle our debt for us and spare us from poverty.’

In Arabic Dua in Arabic
In English ‘All praise is for Allaah, Who fed us and gave us drink, and Who is sufficient for us and has sheltered us, for how many have none to suffice them or shelter them.’

In Arabic Dua in Arabic
In English ‘O Allaah, Knower of the seen and the unseen, Creator of the heavens and the earth, Lord and Sovereign of all things I bear witness that none has the right to be worshipped except You. I take refuge in You from the evil of my soul and from the evil and shirk of the devil, and from committing wrong against my soul or bringing such upon another Muslim.’

In Arabic Dua in Arabic
In English ‘The Prophet (S) never used to sleep until he had recited Suurah As-Sajdah and Suurah Al-Mulk.’

In Arabic Dua in Arabic
In English ‘If you take to your bed, then perform ablution, lie on your right side and then supplicate:‘O Allaah, I submit my soul unto You, and I entrust my affair unto You, and I turn my face towards You, and I totally rely on You, in hope and fear of You. Verily there is no refuge nor safe haven from You except with You. I believe in Your Book which You have revealed and in Your Prophet whom You have sent.’…If you then die, you will die upon the fitrah.’

Hadith Regarding Women’s Intelligence

25 Jan

Women’s Intelligence Hadith Again
by Gibril F Haddad

Question:

I would like to know the interpretation of the Hadeeth according to which the prophet Muhammad MHMD stated that women lack in intelligence. A hanafi site on the internet (islam.tc/ask-imam) stated in detail that the hadeeth implies what it literally means and that men are more intelligent than women. It gives examples of superiority of Quran amongst other books. Allah forgive me if I am sinful for not agreeing with this interpretation. I would like o know if this is the only interpretation according to the Ahnaaf or even other madhabs?

Reply:

TEXT AND SOURCING

The hadith states that the Prophet MHMD upon him blessings and peace, addressed a group of women in the mosque, saying:

“I have not seen any one more deficient in intelligence and religion than you. A cautious, sensible man could be led astray by some of you.” The women asked: “O Allah’s Apostle, what is deficient in our intelligence and religion?” He said: “Is not the evidence of two women equal to the witness of one man?” They replied in the affirmative. He said: “This is the deficiency of your intelligence”… “Isn’t it true that a woman can neither pray nor fast during her menses?” The women replied in the affirmative. He said: “This is the deficiency in your religion.”

It is related in al-Bukhari and Muslim.

ITS MEANING IS NOT LITERAL

The hadith here uses two figures of speech: the first is hyperbole (mubalagha) meaning exaggeration in the words “even a prudent, sensible man might be led astray by some of you” i.e. a fortiori an ordinary man.

The second figure is synechdoche (majaz mursal) consisting in using the whole for the part: intelligence to mean the specific legal testimony of a woman, and religion to mean the prayer and fast at the time of menses.

Numerous verses and other narrations stress that the reward of women equals that of men even if their acts differ. So this particular narration is not meant literally but as an acknowledgment of the inordinate power women wield over men while ostensibly less active in the public and spiritual spheres.

THREE ADDITIONAL BACKGROUND MEANINGS

Three additional meanings provide an indispensable completion of the picture of this hadith. These meanings revolve around fundraising for jihad, the blame of women’s cursing of their husbands, and the playfulness of the Prophet, upon him blessings and peace, with his female public.

1. FUNDRAISING

The real import of the hadith – spoken at the Farewell Pilgrimage – and its actual context was that the Prophet, upon him blessings and peace, challenged the women that were present to realize that unless they helped raise money with their gold and jewelry, they would miss the reward of men waging jihad as well as show ingratitude.

2. BLAME OF CURSING

In the full version of the hadith the Prophet MHMD upon him blessings and peace, also orders the women to ask forgiveness and desist from frequently cursing their husbands. All this was spoken at a time of (1) the impending departure of the latter on jihad; (2) the impending departure of the Prophet, upon him blessings and peace, from this world; and (3) the fact that “Cursing the believer is like killing him.”

3. PLAYFULNESS

The Prophet MHMD upon him blessings and peace, was also being playful in his use of strong terms to impress this teaching on the listeners. Ruqayyah Waris Maqsud writes:

“After the Farewell Pilgrimage at the Eid prayer, the Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) walked past the men leaning on Bilal’s arm, and came to the rows of women behind them. Bilal spread out a cloth and the Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) urged the women to be generous with their gifts of charity, for when he had been allowed a glimpse into the flames of Hell, he had noted that most of the people being tormented there were women. The women were outraged, and one of them instantly stood up boldly and demanded to know why that was so. ‘Because,’ he replied, ‘you women grumble so much, and show ingratitude to your husbands! Even if the poor fellows spent all their lives doing good things for you, you have only to be upset at the least thing and you will say, ‘I have never received any good from you!’ (Bukhari 1.28, recorded by Ibn Abbas – who was present on that occasion as a child). At that the women began vigorously to pull off their rings and ear-rings, and throw them into Bilal’s cloth.”

In conclusion, we need to remove the meaning of the words of the Prophet MHMD upon him blessings and peace, from our contemporary context of sour feminism and the clash of the sexes, and replace it into its proper context: namely, a parting, wartime exhortation using certain figures of speech which are not meant literally, nor are women the issue although they are addressed pointedly and, as it were, by the scruff of their gender; but rather, to trigger among wealthy and sensible citizens acts of generosity for the greater good while reminding them that life is fleeting and thankfulness a surer way to Paradise than despair.

And Allah knows best.

gibril
[2006-05-30] 

Hadith for Women

6 Jan

Hadith on Women:

 Narrated by Ibn Mas’ud: Allah’s Apostle said: “(Unveiled) woman is a cause of corruption. Once she goes out Satan beautifies her in the eyes of men (to seduce her as well as them). At her home, she is the closest (to the face) of her Lord.”

Narrated by Fudhalah ibn ‘Ubaid: Allah’s Apostle said: “Three persons are doomed …. Among them a woman whose husband is not present and provides for her; yet she shows her charms to (foreign) men.”

Narrated by Ibn Jarieh said ‘Ata had told him when Ibn Hashim prevented women from performing Tawaf with men: how could he prevent them while the wives of the Prophet performed Tawaf with men?” I (i.e. Ibn Jarieh) said: before or after (the verse of) hijab (was revealed)? He said: “Upon my life, afterhijab.” “How could they intermix with men?” I asked. “They didn’t,” he replied. “’Aisha used to perform Tawaf at a dividing space from men; she didn’t intermingle with them.”

Narrated by Abu Huraira : The Prophet said, “The saying ‘Sub Han Allah’ is for men and clapping is for women i.e.” (If something happens during the prayer talking is not allowed, except the men can invite the attention of the Imam by saying “Sub Han Allah (i.e. Glorified be Allah )”, and women, by clapping their hands).

Narrated by Anas bin Malik: The Prophet passed by a woman who was sitting and weeping beside a grave and said to her, “Fear Allah and be patient.”

Narrated by Anas: “A woman came to the Prophet offering herself to him in marriage, saying, “Have you got any interest in me (i.e. would you like to marry me?)” Anas’ daughter said, “How shameless that woman was!” On that Anas said, “She is better than you for, she presented herself to Allah’s Apostle (for marriage).”

Narrated by Um Mubashir: Allah’s Apostle proposed to the widow of Al Baraa bin Ma’rour but she told him: “I promised my (dead) husband not to marry after him.” “This promise is not valid,” said the Prophet

Narrated by Abdullah ibn Abbas: Allah’s Apostle said, “I also saw the Hell-fire and I had never seen such a horrible sight. I saw that most of the inhabitants were women.” The people asked, “O Allah’s Apostle! Why is it so?” The Prophet replied, “Because of their ungratefulness.” It was asked whether they are ungrateful to Allah. The Prophet said, “They are ungrateful to their companions of life (husbands) and ungrateful to good deeds. If you are benevolent to one of them throughout the life and if she sees anything (undesirable) in you, she will say, ‘I never had any good from you.’ “

Allah’s Apostle said: “A woman, once married, should ask for husband’s consent if she wants to give away a gift (or donation) from her money.”

Narrated by Abu Sa’eed Al Khudri, Allah’s Apostle said :” A Jewish women used to put two wooden legs to lengthen her shoes, so that no one could recognise her, for she was very short.” The Prophet forbade this action that is a kind of cheating others

Narrated by Ibn ‘Abbas: Allah’s Apostle said, “Women do not have to shave their head, only to shorten their hair (i.e. in hajj and other practices)”

Narrated by ‘A’isha, Ummul Mu’minin: A woman made a sign from behind a curtain to indicate that she had a letter for the Apostle of Allah. The Prophet closed his hand, saying: I do not know this is a man’s or a woman’s hand. She said: No, a woman. He said: If you were a woman, you would make a difference to your nails, meaning with henna.

Narrated by ‘Abdullah bin Umar: A person stood up and asked, “O Allah’s: Apostle! What clothes may be worn in the state of Ihram?” The Prophet replied, “Do not wear a shirt or trousers, or any headgear, and also do not wear anything perfumed with Wars or saffron, and the Muhrima (a woman in the state of Ihram) should not cover her face, or wear gloves.”

Narrated Abu Musa Al ‘Ashari: Allah’s Apostle said, “Wearing silk (clothes) and gold is not allowed for the males of my Ummah but allowed to the females.”

Narrated by Abu Huraira: Allah’s Apostle said, “Woe unto women from the two reds: gold and saffron-dyed clothes.”

Narrated by Ibn ‘Abbas: Allah’s Apostle cursed those men who are in the similitude (assume the manners) of women and those women who are in the similitude (assume the manners) of men.

Wife’s Duty Towards In-laws

6 Jan

Answered by Shaykh Muhammad ibn Adam al-Kawthari

Question:

Why do all your answers about living with in-laws encourage people to move out and get a place of their own?

Answer:

In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful 

 

In the name of Allah, Most Compassionate, Most Merciful,

 

There are two separate things here, and one should not be confused with the other. The legal responsibility of a wife is one thing and her moral responsibility is another. What has been explained in the many earlier articles is the legal responsibility of the wife upon marriage.

 

From a Shariah perspective, it is not the wife�s responsibility to look after her parents� in-law or take care of them. She does not have to live with them, hence it will not be sinful or even blameworthy if she chooses to live separately from her in-laws.

 

You state that you would like to see some evidences from the Qur’an or Sunna suggesting that the husband and wife should live separately, hence just ponder over the following Hadith:

 

Sayyiduna Amr ibn al-Ahwas narrates a long Hadith in which he relates the sermon given by the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) at the time of his farewell Hajj. From amongst the many advices given by the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace), he stated:

 

�Beware! I advise you to treat your women honourably, for these women are confined in your homes. Other than this, you cannot demand anything from them except if they commit a manifest sin�� (Sunan Tirmidhi, no: 3087)

 

The above words of wisdom should be kept in mind by every husband. The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) explained that a woman, upon marrying, leaves behind her parents, family, friends and everything else in order to come and live with her husband. She sacrifices everything for the sake of her new life-partner, and becomes tied and confined with her husband. Thus, the husband should reflect on this, and by doing so, he would never attempt to treat his wife in an ill manner.

 

The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) then stated that the husband does not have any further rights over his wife other than her being confined and tied up with him. This is a huge sacrifice given by the wife; hence the husband should not demand and expect anything more than that.

 

From this Hadith, the jurists (fuqaha) have deduced that the wife is not legally responsible for serving her in-laws. The husband cannot demand from her to take care of his own parents, for that is not legally binding on her. Rather, the Hadith states that the husband cannot demand anything besides the fact that the woman has confined herself to him.

 

Having said that, it is a great act of virtue and blessings for the wife if she serves her parents in-law, for which she will be immensely rewarded. She should try her best in taking care of them, but this is not her responsibility or duty per se.

 

Indeed, there are many texts of the Qur�an and Sunnah emphasising the importance of looking after one�s parents, but we should remember that this is the duty of the son. The husband is responsible to look after his own parents and not enforce this duty upon his wife. He most definitely does not have to send them to a nursing home; rather, he may provide a separate home for his wife and daily take care of the needs of his parents. He may even reside close to his parent�s home and spend a lot of time there. He should help in their daily affairs and take care of them. If his wife wishes to join in, she will be committing a great act of virtue but she cannot be forced. We need to always keep in mind the words of the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) where he said that give each person the right they deserve. By doing so, we will have a more blissful, happy and pleasant atmosphere, Insha’ Allah.

 

And Allah knows best

 

Muhammad ibn Adam al-Kawthari 
Darul Iftaa, Leicester, UK

Hadith: Woman is like a rib…

31 Dec

Question


What is the meaning of the following hadith?

Sahih Bukhari Volume 4 Book 55 #548

Narrated Abu Huraira: Allah’s Apostle said, “Treat women nicely, for a woman is created from a rib, and the most curved portion of the rib is its upper portion, so, if you should try to straighten it, it will break, but if you leave it as it is, it will remain crooked.  So treat women nicely”

The Bible says that Eve was created from Adam’s rib, but the Quran does not say this.  Was the Prophet (sAas) saying that the Torah is correct, so that it is just that the Qur’an did not mention this part of the story?  Or is this a saying that has been incorrectly attributed to the Prophet (sAas)?

And what does it mean that women will ‘remain crooked’ if left alone?  Surely women are not crooked by nature!

Jazakallah khayrun for any light you can shed on this subject.

May Allah SWT bless you for your work on this website

Question from United Kingdom

Answer


The referred saying has been ascribed to the Prophet (pbuh) in slightly varying words. It seems that the implication of the phrase “woman is created from rib” is similar to what the Qur’an has implied by the phrase: “Man is created from haste”, which is quite accurately translated by Yusuf Ali as “Man is a creature of haste”, implying that ‘man is hasty, in nature’. Similarly, it seems that the referred phrase ascribed to the Prophet (pbuh) is not meant to imply the origin of a woman’s creation, but to point out one of her attributes. Thus, the particular phrase, in my opinion, implies that a woman is like a rib, in her nature. A related narrative has also been reported in Bukhari and Muslim in the words “A woman is like a rib”, rather than ‘a woman is created from rib’. It is also possible that the particular narrative may have been (unintentionally) altered in its transmission – due (maybe) to a mistake on the part of any one or more of its narrators – in such a way that the words “A woman is like a rib” may have transformed into “A woman is created from the rib”.

Keeping the foregoing explanation in perspective, in the referred narrative, the Prophet (pbuh), in my opinion, is reported to have advised that a person should not enforce his will upon his woman (wife). On the contrary, if the person wants to enjoy a pleasant life with his wife, he should ignore her faults and benefit from her positive qualities and should try to alter her (undesired) qualities with love and affection, rather than through force. Using force at such instances may break a woman rather than straighten her (as it would a rib).

The referred narrative should not be construed to imply that all women are, generally, unbending and uncompromising, in response to force. The statement ascribed to the Prophet (pbuh) should be construed as a general statement, based upon general exposure and experience. It should not be construed as a universal law for all women.

November 24, 2000