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Abu-Huraira (ra) forbidding his daughter from wearing Gold?

19 Mar

Question

 

Assalamu alaikum.Ibn Sireen Allah’s mercy on him qoutes Abu Huraira Allah be pleased with him, saying he did not allow his daughter to use gold ornaments saying he fears Hell Fire.Ibn Hazam Allah’s mercy on him says this report is Saheeh.He also qoutes another incident where Abu Huraira’s daughter Allah be pleased with them says she was not allowed to use gold as it will lead to Hell fire.Now why should there be fear of Hell Fire as all that has to be done is give Zakaath.So could you kindly clarify this issue as what is the exact incident or is there anything wrong or missing in the qouting I read from a book. Jazakhallahum Khair

Answer

 

 

 

All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad  is His slave and Messenger.

The chain of narration of the story which you pointed to in the question is authentic and it was reported by Abdur-Razaaq in his “Al-Musannaf” on the authority of Ma’mar, fromAyyoob from Ibn Sireen that Abu Hurayrah used to say to his daughter: “Do not wear gold as I fear for you the heat of the flames (of fire).”

This was from Abu Hurayrah  as a way of being more pious and ascetic and that he feared about his daughter that if she was too keen on doing (wearing) what is permissible, she would exceed this to do (wear) what is not permissible, or rather that he feared for her that she would not pay its Zakaah.

However, this was the view and choice of Abu Hurayrah  but the majority of the Companions  disagreed with him on this point, as they adorned their wives and daughters with gold and they did not see any problem in this, and the opinion of the majority of the Companions  is the correct opinion.

Allaah Knows best.

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Have We Forgotten?

16 Feb

Have we forgotten the love Nabi SalAllahu Alayhi wassalam had for this ummah?

*Have we forgotten the love Nabi SalAllahu Alayhi wassalam had for you and I?

*Have we forgotten the favours and bounties we were blessed with because of Nabi SalAllahu Alayhi 
wassalam?

*Have we forgotten the wounds inflicted by Nabi SalAllahu Alayhi wassalam because of you 
and I?

*Have we forgotten the tears that rolled down and that were shed by Nabi SalAllahu Alayhi wassalam for this ummah?

*Today we have forgotten and have neglected the teachings of Nabi SalAllahu Alayhi wassalam. Today we have no value and we neglect the rights of Nabi SalAllahu Alayhi wassalam. 

*Did he SalAllahu Alayhi wassalam ever neglect us? Did he SalAllahu Alayhi wassalam ever once forget this ummah?

 

What Shaitan Does (Hadith)

12 Feb

Bismillah

Muhammad – sal Allahu alayhi wassalaam – said that yawning is from Satan.

The Prophet said, “Yawning is from Satan and if anyone of you yawns, he should check his yawning as much as possible, for if anyone of you (during the act of yawning) should say: ‘Ha’, Satan will laugh at him.” Volume 4, Book 54, Number 509: Narrated Abu Huraira:

Muhammad – sal Allahu alayhi wassalaam – said that yawning is from Satan and that Allah likes sneezing and dislikes yawning.

The Prophet said, “Allah likes sneezing and dislikes yawning, so if someone sneezes and then praises Allah, then it is obligatory on every Muslim who heard him, to say: May Allah be merciful to you (Yar-hamuka-l-lah). But as regards yawning, it is from Satan, so one must try one’s best to stop it, if one says ‘Ha’ when yawning, Satan will laugh at him.” Volume 8, Book 73, Number 242: Narrated Abu Huraira: See also Volume 8, Book 73, Number 245:, Narrated Abu Huraira:

Muhammad – sal Allahu alayhi wassalaam – said a good dream is from Allah and a bad dream is from Satan.

The Prophet said, “A good dream is from Allah, and a bad or evil dream is from Satan; so if anyone of you has a bad dream of which he gets afraid, he should spit on his left side and should seek Refuge with Allah from its evil, for then it will not harm him.” Volume 4, Book 54, Number 513: Narrated Abu Qatada:

I heard the Prophet saying, “A good dream is from Allah, and a bad dream is from Satan. So if anyone of you sees (in a dream) something he dislikes, when he gets up he should blow thrice (on his left side) and seek refuge with Allah from its evil for then it will not harm him.” Volume 7, Book 71, Number 643: Narrated Abu Qatada:

The Prophet said, “A good dream is from Allah, and a bad dream is from Satan. So whoever has seen (in a dream) something he dislike, then he should spit without saliva, thrice on his left and seek refuge with Allah from Satan, for it will not harm him, and Satan cannot appear in my shape.” Volume 9, Book 87, Number 124: Narrated Abu Qatada:

Muhammad – sal Allahu alayhi wassalaam – said that Satan stayed in the upper part of a nose all night.

The Prophet said, “If anyone of you rouses from sleep and performs the ablution, he should wash his nose by putting water in it and then blowing it out thrice, because Satan has stayed in the upper part of his nose all the night.” Volume 4, Book 54, Number 516: Narrated Abu Huraira:

Muhammad – sal Allahu alayhi wassalaam – said a cock crows because it has seen an angel and donkeys bray because they have seen Satan.

The Prophet said, “When you hear the crowing of cocks, ask for Allah’s Blessings for (their crowing indicates that) they have seen an angel. And when you hear the braying of donkeys, seek Refuge with Allah from Satan for (their braying indicates) that they have seen a Satan.” Volume 4, Book 54, Number 522: Narrated Abu Huraira:

Muhammad – sal Allahu alayhi wassalaam – said that Satan touches all human offspring making them cry.

Abu Huraira said, “I heard Allah’s Apostle saying, ‘There is none born among the off-spring of Adam, but Satan touches it. A child therefore, cries loudly at the time of birth because of the touch of Satan, except Mary and her child.” Then Abu Huraira recited: “And I seek refuge with You for her and for her offspring from the outcast Satan” (3.36) Volume 4, Book 55, Number 641:Narrated Said bin Al-Musaiyab:Also, same thing at Volume 6, Book 60, Number 71:, Narrated Said bin Al-Musaiyab:

Muhammad – sal Allahu alayhi wassalaam – said that devils spread out at night time and that Satan does not open a closed door.

Allah’s Apostle said, “When night falls (or when it is evening), stop your children from going out, for the devils spread out at that time. But when an hour of the night has passed, release them and close the doors and mention Allah’s Name, for Satan does not open a closed door. Tie the mouth of your water-skin and mention Allah’s Name; cover your containers and utensils and mention Allah’s Name. Cover them even by placing something across it, and extinguish your lamps.” Volume 7, Book 69, Number 527: Narrated Jabir bin ‘Abdullah

Muhammad – sal Allahu alayhi wassalaam – said a child born from a union where a parent said a “phrase,” Satan cannot harm the child.

The Prophet said, “If anyone of you, when intending to have a sexual intercourse with his wife, says: ‘Bismillah, Allahumma jannibna-sh-shaitan, wa jannibi-sh-shaitan ma razaqtana,’ and if the couple are destined to have a child (out of that very sexual relation), then Satan will never be able to harm that child.” Volume 8, Book 75, Number 397: Narrated Ibn ‘Abbas:

Muhammad said that during sleep Satan ties knots at the back of the head.

Allah’s Apostle said, “During your sleep, Satan knots three knots at the back of the head of each of you, and he breathes the following words at each knot, ‘The night is, long, so keep on sleeping,’ If that person wakes up and celebrates the praises of Allah, then one knot is undone, and when he performs ablution the second knot is undone, and when he prays, all the knots are undone, and he gets up in the morning lively and gay, otherwise he gets up dull and gloomy.” Volume 4, Book 54, Number 491: Narrated Abu Huraira:

Muhammad – sal Allahu alayhi wassalaam – said that Satan peed in the ear of a man.

It was mentioned before the Prophet that there was a man who slept the night till morning (after sunrise). The Prophet said, “He is a man in whose ears (or ear) Satan had urinated.” Volume 4, Book 54, Number 492: Narrated ‘Abdullah:

Muhammad – sal Allahu alayhi wassalaam – said Satan can not impersonate him in a dream.

The Prophet said, “Name yourselves with my name (use my name) but do not name yourselves with my Kunya name (i.e. Abu-l Qasim). And whoever sees me in a dream then surely he has seen me for Satan cannot impersonate me. And whoever tells a lie against me (intentionally), then (surely) let him occupy his seat in Hell-fire.” Volume 1, Book 3, Number 110: Narrated Abu Huraira: Also at Volume 8, Book 73, Number 217: Narrated Abu Huraira:

Muhammad – sal Allahu alayhi wassalaam – said earthquakes and afflictions come out of the side of the head of Satan.

(The Prophet) said, “O Allah! Bless our Sham and our Yemen.” People said, “Our Najd as well.” The Prophet again said, “O Allah! Bless our Sham and Yemen.” They said again, “Our Najd as well.” On that the Prophet said, “There will appear earthquakes and afflictions, and from there will come out the side of the head of Satan.” Volume 2, Book 17, Number 147: Narrated Ibn ‘Umar:

Muhammad – sal Allahu alayhi wassalaam – choked Satan

The Prophet once offered the prayer and said, “Satan came in front of me and tried to interrupt my prayer, but Allah gave me an upper hand on him and I choked him. No doubt, I thought of tying him to one of the pillars of the mosque till you get up in the morning and see him. Then I remembered the statement of Prophet Solomon, ‘My Lord ! Bestow on me a kingdom such as shall not belong to any other after me.’ Then Allah made him (Satan) return with his head down (humiliated).” Volume 2, Book 22, Number 301, Narrated Abu Huraira

Muhammad – sal Allahu alayhi wassalaam – said Satan passes wind and runs so he may not hear the Adhan (call to prayer).

Allah’s Apostle said, “When the Adhan for the prayer is pronounced, then Satan takes to his heels passing wind so that he may not hear the Adhan and when the Muadh-dhin finishes, he comes back; Volume 2, Book 22, Number 313: Narrated Abu Huraira,

Allah’s Apostle said, “When the call for prayer is made, Satan takes to his heels passing wind so that he may not hear the Adhan and when the call is finished he comes back, and when the Iqama is pronounced, Satan again takes to his heels, Volume 2, Book 22, Number 323, Narrated Abu Huraira:

Muhammad – sal Allahu alayhi wassalaam – said that when praying while standing, Satan puts doubts into the person.

Allah’s Apostle said, “When anyone of you stands for the prayers, Satan comes and puts him in doubts till he forgets how many Rakat he has prayed. So if this happens to anyone of you, he should perform two prostrations of Sahu while sitting. Volume 2, Book 22, Number 324: Narrated Abu Huraira:

Muhammad – sal Allahu alayhi wassalaam – said that Satan can reach into a person’s body the same as blood reaches it.

Safiya, the wife of the Prophet told me that she went to Allah’s Apostle to visit him in the mosque while he was in Itikaf in the last ten days of Ramadan. She had a talk with him for a while, then she got up in order to return home. The Prophet accompanied her. When they reached the gate of the mosque, opposite the door of Um-Salama, two Ansari men were passing by and they greeted Allah’s Apostle . He told them: Do not run away! And said, “She is (my wife) Safiya bint Huyai.” Both of them said, “Subhan Allah, (How dare we think of any evil) O Allah’s Apostle!” And they felt it. The Prophet said (to them), “Satan reaches everywhere in the human body as blood reaches in it, (everywhere in one’s body). I was afraid lest Satan might insert an evil thought in your minds.” Volume 3, Book 33, Number 251: Narrated Ali bin Al-Husain: Also, see 254

Muhammad – sal Allahu alayhi wassalaam – said affliction comes out of the side of Satan’s head.

The Prophet stood up and delivered a sermon, and pointing to ‘Aisha’s house (i.e. eastwards), he said thrice, “Affliction (will appear from) here,” and, “from where the side of the Satan’s head comes out (i.e. from the East).” Volume 4, Book 53, Number 336: Narrated ‘Abdullah:

I saw Allah’s Apostle pointing towards the east saying, “Lo! Afflictions will verily emerge hence; afflictions will verily emerge hence where the (side of the head of) Satan appears.” Volume 4, Book 54, Number 499: Narrated ‘Abdullah bin ‘Umar:

Tell your wife you love her

8 Feb

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Islamic Nikaah Contract (Conditions and Pre-Nup)

31 Jan

Options for an Islamic prenuptial agreement

By Sound Vision Staff Writer

A prenuptial agreement (which is also called an antenuptial) agreement is a contract entered into by a couple planning to be married.

This contract specifies the married couple to be’s individual rights throughout the marriage and if their marriage should end.

This agreement must be in writing, signed by both parties, and in some states of the United States, signed before witnesses and entered into the court records.

Prenuptial agreements and the rights of Muslims in marriage

But prenuptial agreements don’t just have to cover issues pertaining to wealth and property. They can also be used to safeguard your Islamic rights within a marriage and, if necessary, in the case of divorce.

Imam Yusuf Ziya Kavakci is Imam of the Dallas Central Mosque in Richardson, Texas. He has a Ph.D. in Islamic law from the Institute of Islamic Research of Istanbul University in Turkey. He strongly recommends Muslim couples sign a prenuptial agreement before getting married. Here’s what he had to say about this in an interview with Sound Vision:

It is good and necessary to benefit from the law of the land and to get its protection in terms of documentation, in terms of court systems.

For this purpose, I think no Muslim marriage be performed without having a marriage license given by marriage offices of the state. These marriage licenses with their blank spaces may be used by Islamic centers, by Imams in their marriage contracts and everything could be recorded on that paper.

In this context, Muslims could benefit from the prenuptial agreement system by writing down all conditions they would observe in their married life including following Islam and Shariah and that conflicts will be solved by mediation and arbitration.

So couples may prepare these prenuptial marriage agreements, with their signatures on them and get them notarized. Then the rights of couples according to their belief system will be guaranteed and practiced in any condition everywhere in the world.

Prenuptial agreements come before the law of the land when conflict arises. So this is a nice opportunity for Muslims to guarantee their rights of Islamic belief and also to let Islamic law be applied on their family life.

Some clauses that Muslims have put in their contracts

A prenuptial agreement seems to give more strength to the Islamic marriage contract and the conditions placed therein. Muslim men and women are allowed to put conditions in the marriage contract, provided that they do not contradict Islamic law.

Below are some things Muslims have or may put in writing in their marriage contracts include.

Disclaimer: Many of the items below are not in agreement with others. Nor are the conditions below recommendations from Sound Vision.

We strongly urge anyone who is considering putting conditions or any of the following clauses in their marriage contract or working out a prenuptial agreement with their spouse-to-be to consult a qualified Islamic scholar as well as a Muslim lawyer well grounded in marriage and divorce law of the land.

  • both husband and wife agree to discuss all issues that arise in their marriage and arrive at mutually agreeable conclusions. Differences of opinion concerning a point of Islamic practice will be referred to the Quran and Hadith. Both will admit if they are simply expressing personal opinions, which will not be binding.
  • none of them will have a right to physically hurt each other.
  • the husband must learn to speak and read Arabic fluently.
  • that the husband will not require the wife to move out of her home town.
  • the wife will bring all twenty of her cats to live in her husband’s house.
  • husband and wife both will share responsibilities of cooking, cleaning and other homemaking tasks.
  • income of husband and wife both will be pooled together in one account operable by each one individually with mutual consent.
  • husband will not exercise his option of another wife
  • husband is the leader of the family who will run the family in consultation with the wife.
  • wife will not be required to work outside the home. If she chooses to work, she will be not be stopped from it and she will not be required to share that income for the family needs.
  • wife will not work to earn money without the consent of husband.
  • wife will be solely responsible for homemaking.
  • children will be raised as Muslims in home and through Islamic education.
  • home will be run Islamically as described in the Quran and Hadith
  • Children will not be taken to church.
  • A court granted divorce will be considered, Islamically, a first level of Talaq (divorce), which has a room for remarrying the same person without any condition.
  • husband or wife will facilitate each other’s Islamic work and will not stop each other from it.
  • in case of a dispute, husband and wife will appoint one person each to arbitrate between them
  • if either husband or a wife suggests marriage counseling, the other party must agree to it.
  • husband will not ask wife to stop her Islamic practices like Hijab
  • if anyone indulges in Haram (what is forbidden), it will be an acceptable ground for divorce.
  • in case of divorce, children will be with Muslim spouse and will be raised Muslims.
  • in case of any spouse’s death, the surviving spouse will be responsible for the distribution of inheritance according to the Islamic law.
  • family will not move out to another country without mutual agreement.

Quotes

27 Jan

“When she is a daughter, she opens a door of Jannah for her father. When she is a wife, she completes half of the deen of her husband. When she is a mother, Jannah lies under her feet – If everyone knew the true status of a muslim women in Islaam, even the men would want to be women” [Akram Nadawi]

‎”Don’t be sad if Allah separates you from something or someone you love. If only we knew what His plans were for us, our hearts would melt with the warmth of His love.”

Be aware of every hour and how it passes and only spend it in the best possible way; do not neglect yourself, but keep accustomed to the noblest and best of actions, and send to your grave that which will please you when you arrive to it. Imaam ibn Al-Jawzee

When someone makes a mistake and commits a error, we are quick to jump to conclusions about them and we start bashing them. However, some of our pious predecessors would encourage us to find up to 70 excuses for our fellow brothers and sisters, and if we can’t, we can say “maybe he/she has an excuse that I’m not aware of!” And this reminder could be exhibited in our everyday interactions.

When you are with your spouse or brothers/sisters, try only to use positive words that will benefit you instead of using harsh ones that hurt your relationship. Indeed, you can disagree with other people, but how you disagree will be what matters! We are told,

“Tell My worshipers, that they should say words that are the finest, satan would arouse discord among them; he is the clear enemy of mankind” (17:53)
To love without condition, to talk without intention, listen without judging, to give without reason and to care without expectation.
So let’s not let Satan bring enmity amongst us and win. Indeed, he is our enemy so let’s treat him as such.

What is this world but a dream that a sleeper sees – he delights in it for a few moments, and then wakes up to face reality. Scholar: Al-Hasan Al-Basree

 Five things are associated with difficulty in life: the heart is hard, the eyes do not shed tears, to have limited haya, to desire the material world, and to have lengthy hopes/desires in your life. Scholar Name: Al-Fudayl ibn ‘Iyaad

It’s my honour that You are my Master. It’s my dignity that I am Your slave.

How To Make Proper Duaa

25 Jan

Salaam alaikum sisters,

Inshallah I will make this post longer but to start off I just wanted to remind everyone that when making duaa (outside of salaah) one must first say:

Bismillahi arrahman arraheem. Then one must recite al-fatiha and finally the second tashahhud before making your duaa. 

May Allah swt keep us on the straight path. Ameen.