The haram practice of mut’ah

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Is Abortion Haram?-Zakir Naik

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Wife taking Husband`s surname

Why a woman should not take her husband?s surname? Is it jaiz to get husband?s surname.

In Islam what are the basic rules & regulation for muslim women to adopt from her father Or her husband. Why a woman should not take her husband?s surname? It is the commen practice specially in Pakistan that Father or Husband try to implement his name with his family womens? Please inform in brief .Please remember in pray.

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While the normal practice in Islam is that a person mentioned their name as “so and so” the son of “so and so” from “so and so” family, clan or area. In today’s society, the mention of the Fathers name has been left out, thus a person is addressed by his/her forename and surname, the surname generally being the name of the family or area. It is taken to be normal that before marriage a female takes the surname of her father and after marriage that of her husband. Thus, it will be perfectly permissible for a woman to take her husbands surname, especially as there are many other factors demanding it, viz.

1. Certain countries don’t regard the children as legitimate if the parents don’t have corresponding surnames

2. It is law in certain countries that in order for a couple to be legally registered as married, the wife has to adopt her husbands surname in all legal documents.

3. In order to prove the man travelling with you for Haj or Umra to be your husband and Wali, the Saudi authorities sometimes demand that the surname on both passports tally.

4. In our society, the women who don’t take the surnames of their husbands are those who want to show themselves as liberated, equal to and liberated from their husbands. Thus by not adopting the husbands surname, it could be misconstrued that she is one of them.

Under these circumstances, it would be preferred for the woman to take the surname of her husband. If both her father and husband insist on her taking their surname than obedience to the husband would be given priority, otherwise a possible solution could be to take the fathers name or surname as a middle name and keep the husbands surname as her surname.

and Allah Ta’ala Knows Best

Mufti Ebrahim Desai

Quotes

Actually, life did come withan instruction manual. Its called the Qur’an.

“Dont tell Allah swt how great your storm is, tell your storm how great Allah swt is.”

Ibn Taymiyyah: Dhikr is to the heart as water is to a {{fish;}} see what happens to a fish when it is taken out of water?

“You marry one another with the intention that; I will try to bring this person to Paradise with me” ~ Sheikh Usama Abdul Ghani

 

Tell your wife you love her

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Oral Sex in Islam

 

Oral sex between a husband and wife is considered as Makruh Tahrimi by the jurists, since there is strong possibility that by ejaculation, Mazi occurs and enters the mouth of the partner. There is consensus amongst the Fuqahaa that Mazi is Najis (impure) ORAL SEX: Man has been created as a bearer of high and noble attributes. In him he mirros the attributes of divinity (Sifaat-e-Ilaahiyya) such as life, knowledge, power, will, sight, hearing, speech, love, etc. In the authoritative Tafseer of the aforementioned Aayat, it is said that Insaan (man) has been adorned with the Noor of Aql (the light of intelligence). This celestial faculty of intelligence creates in Insaan the capacity for the manifestation of the lofty and divine attributes of Allah Taãla. By virtue of the Noor of Aql man becomes incandescent by being a mirror for these lofty attributes and manifestation (Tajalliyaat-e-Zilliyah and Sifaat-e-Zaatiyyah). As a direct consequence of this lofty pedestal which Insaan occupies in the Divine Scheme, the mantle of Khilaafah (vicegerency) has been conferred on him. Stating this fact, the Qurãn declares: ‘Verily I shall be creating on earth a Khaleefah.’ In the Tafseer of the Aayat mentioned at the beginning, it is also said that in relation to all the species of life, man has been endowned with the most beautiful form. All other animals have been created in a lowly form with their heads downwards. Their faces constantly pointing downwards to the earth indicate their low rank in relation to man. In contrast, man has been created upright and he eats his food by means of raising it with his hands unlike the lowly beasts with faces downwards. HIS DEBASEMENT: In the Tafseer of the Aayat, it is said that when man willingly destroys his natural ability to progress to the pedestals of elevation, he degenerates and falls from his lofty mansion. He then falls to levels lower than the level of dogs, pigs and even Shayaateen. SUPERIORITY: According to the authentic Tafaseer, prior to the creation of Aadam (Álayhis salaam), the Malaaikah (angels) entertained the opinion that Allah Taãla will not create any being superior to them. Allah Taãla negates this opinion of the Malaaikah by creating Aadam (Álayhis salaam) and making him a manifestation of divine attributes. To illustrate Insaan’s superiority over all pecies of creation, Allah Taãla commanded the Malaaikah to make Sajdah (prostration) to him (Nabi Aadam (Álayhis salaam). The superiority of man is well emphasised by the statement of Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam): ‘Allah created Aadam in His (Allah’s) form.’ Insha Allah, this Hadith will be explained in greater detail in some future issue of ‘the Majlis’. Here it is sufficient to mention the interpretation of the authorities intelligence, sight, hearing, etc. These lofty attributes are located in that part of the human body called head. It is for this reason that Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam) forbade striking or slapping the face of any human being or even an animal. In the Tafseer of the Qurãnic Aayat which permits husbands to beat wives in cases of necessity, it is said: ‘The face shall not be slapped’. Explaining the reason for the prohibition of slapping the face, Imaam Nawawi (RA) says in his Sharhul Muslim, ‘Because the face is the embodiment of man’s beauty in addition to it being of sublime nature.’ PATHWAY FOR QURÃN: In the Ahaadith, the following narration appears. ‘Verily, your mouths are pathways of the Qurãn, therefore purify your mouths with Miswaak’. The Makhaarij or places from whence Qurãnic huroof (letters) emanate are located in the mouth. The high Ibaadat of Tilaawat of the Qurãn shareef is effected via the mouth, hence the Hadith describes the mouth as the ‘pathway of the Qurãn’. Since it is, literally speaking, the channel for the recitation of the Qurãn shareef, Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam) emphasised much the maintainance of its purity. The emphasis on the purity of the mouth could be gauged from the many times Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam) would use the Miswaak everyday to clean his mouth. The practice of Miswaak is strongly stressed by the Shariáh. In one Hadith, Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam) said, ‘When the servant of Allah uses the Miswaak and then performs Salaat, an angel stands behind him, listening attentively to the recitation of the Qurãn. The angels draws closer and closer to the reciter and places his mouth on the mouth of the reciter. Thus every word emanating from the mouth of the Musalli enters the angel’s mouth. Therefore, maintain your mouth pure and clean for the Qurãn. ZIKRULLAH: The actual purpose underlying the creation of man is Zikrullah or the remembrance of Allah Taãla. Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam) ordered Muslims to maintain their tongues fresh with the Zikr of Allah Taãla. The facts mentioned above will indicate that Insaan is Ashraful Makhlukaat (the noblest of creation) and the noblest part of his body is his head which is the location for lofty faculties and attributes which earn for him the designation of ‘the form of Allah’. In order that he maintains his lofty rank and progresses continuously towards loftier mansions and closer Divine Proximity, it is essential that man exercises restraint over his physical and animal qualities. If he fails in this respect, he will descend to a level below the lowly beasts. Allah Taãla has endowed man with intelligence, will-power and shame. He must employ these attributes to subdue his animal and carnal desires and refrain from indulgence in the excesses of lust. If he fails in this achievement he will annihilate himself spiritually and degenerate to sub-animal levels. The sublimity of Islam is of such a lofty degree that it exhorts its adherence to adopt dignity, deportment and propriety in even sexual relationship. Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam) advised his Ummah to abstain from total nudity when indulging in sex and not to behave ‘like asses’. Since Islam is a culture of transcendental values calculated to ensure maximum remembrance of Allah Taãla, a Muslim should not debase himself to a sub-animal level by resorting to the vile practice of oral sex. The mouth of Insaan is the pathway of the Qurãn, his tongue has been commanded to remain fresh with Zikrullah; his mouth is situated in the noblest part of his body; the functions of his mouth are noble and lofty; his mouth is a passageway for transference of the recited Qurãn into the mouth of the listening angel. He cannot, therefore, debase and dishonour himself so disgracefully by resorting to the revolting practice of oral sex. A Muslim should not dishonour that head and face which the Shariáh of Islam commands to be honoured. Allah Taãla honoured the human head with noble qualities, the highest being the Noor of Aql, but man debases that lofty part of his body by indulging in an act of bestiality not even committed by the lowly beasts. It does not behove man in general, and a Muslim in particular to degrade himself in this manner. The Mu’min’s link with Allah Taãla is so strong or ought to be so strong that the Shariáh has prescribed a particular Duá to be recited even when a man approaches his wife for sexual relations. Even at the moment of reaching climax and ejaculation, the Muslim is required to read in his mind (without moving the lips) a special Duá so that he remains protected from any Shaitaani interference. We learn from the Hadith of Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam) that Shaytaan attempts to interfere with man even while he indulges in lawful sex, hence the wording of the special Duá for this occasion is: ‘O Allah! Protect us from Shaytaan and protect the offspring you grant us from Shaytaan’. Allah Taãla has honoured man highly, hence the Qurãn says, ‘Verily, we have honoured the sons of Aadam.’ He is therefore not allowed to debase himself with the bestial acts which even the lowly beasts do not commit. The mouth is an honoured part of the physical body. It is not a receptacle of impurity. The Shariáh emphasises the maintainance of its purity. Even in the developing foetus, Allah Taãla has arranged for the maintainance of the purity of the mouth. The umbilical cord connects the developing embryo to its mother. It is the passageway in which exchange of nutrient and waste materials with the circulatory system of the mother takes place. In man the umbilical cord arises at the navel below which is the location of the rebellious Nafs which reduces man to sub-animal levels if not restrained. Why does Allah Taãla not create the foetus with the umbilical cord attached to its mouth so that its nutrition reaches it in the normal way, viz. Via the mouth? Right until the very last moments prior to its emergence into the external world, the baby’s nutrition is via the umblical cord. Immediately on reaching the outside world its nourishment reaches it from the mouth. Since the umbilical cord is also the passageway for impure waste matter, its connection is near to the location of the lowly nafs. The mouth has thus been guarded against impurities. The facts presented in this article should be sufficient to convey to Muslims that their Imaan and the spirit of the teachings of Islam do not permit them to grovel in the dregs of debasement and perpetrate moral injustice by utilising the mouth for deriving sexual pleasure. This is not the function of the mouth. It is a misappropriation of an amaanat (trust). All parts of the body are Amaanat which have to be utilised in accordance with the instructions of Allah Taãla. Such contamination and moral pollution as entailed by oral sex are most unbecoming the dignity and rank of man, especially if the Insaan appears to be a follower of the illustrious Shariáh of Muhammad (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam). Allah Taãla states in the Noble Qurãn, ‘Verily, Allah loves those who purify themselves.’ Extracted from ‘The Majlis’ Vol. 6 No. 8 And Allah Taãla Knows Best. Was salaam Mufti Ebrahim Desai FATWA DEPT Article taken (with Thanks) from JamiatKZN

 

Islamic Nikaah Contract (Conditions and Pre-Nup)

Options for an Islamic prenuptial agreement

By Sound Vision Staff Writer

A prenuptial agreement (which is also called an antenuptial) agreement is a contract entered into by a couple planning to be married.

This contract specifies the married couple to be’s individual rights throughout the marriage and if their marriage should end.

This agreement must be in writing, signed by both parties, and in some states of the United States, signed before witnesses and entered into the court records.

Prenuptial agreements and the rights of Muslims in marriage

But prenuptial agreements don’t just have to cover issues pertaining to wealth and property. They can also be used to safeguard your Islamic rights within a marriage and, if necessary, in the case of divorce.

Imam Yusuf Ziya Kavakci is Imam of the Dallas Central Mosque in Richardson, Texas. He has a Ph.D. in Islamic law from the Institute of Islamic Research of Istanbul University in Turkey. He strongly recommends Muslim couples sign a prenuptial agreement before getting married. Here’s what he had to say about this in an interview with Sound Vision:

It is good and necessary to benefit from the law of the land and to get its protection in terms of documentation, in terms of court systems.

For this purpose, I think no Muslim marriage be performed without having a marriage license given by marriage offices of the state. These marriage licenses with their blank spaces may be used by Islamic centers, by Imams in their marriage contracts and everything could be recorded on that paper.

In this context, Muslims could benefit from the prenuptial agreement system by writing down all conditions they would observe in their married life including following Islam and Shariah and that conflicts will be solved by mediation and arbitration.

So couples may prepare these prenuptial marriage agreements, with their signatures on them and get them notarized. Then the rights of couples according to their belief system will be guaranteed and practiced in any condition everywhere in the world.

Prenuptial agreements come before the law of the land when conflict arises. So this is a nice opportunity for Muslims to guarantee their rights of Islamic belief and also to let Islamic law be applied on their family life.

Some clauses that Muslims have put in their contracts

A prenuptial agreement seems to give more strength to the Islamic marriage contract and the conditions placed therein. Muslim men and women are allowed to put conditions in the marriage contract, provided that they do not contradict Islamic law.

Below are some things Muslims have or may put in writing in their marriage contracts include.

Disclaimer: Many of the items below are not in agreement with others. Nor are the conditions below recommendations from Sound Vision.

We strongly urge anyone who is considering putting conditions or any of the following clauses in their marriage contract or working out a prenuptial agreement with their spouse-to-be to consult a qualified Islamic scholar as well as a Muslim lawyer well grounded in marriage and divorce law of the land.

• both husband and wife agree to discuss all issues that arise in their marriage and arrive at mutually agreeable conclusions. Differences of opinion concerning a point of Islamic practice will be referred to the Quran and Hadith. Both will admit if they are simply expressing personal opinions, which will not be binding.
• none of them will have a right to physically hurt each other.
• the husband must learn to speak and read Arabic fluently.
• that the husband will not require the wife to move out of her home town.
• the wife will bring all twenty of her cats to live in her husband’s house.
• husband and wife both will share responsibilities of cooking, cleaning and other homemaking tasks.
• income of husband and wife both will be pooled together in one account operable by each one individually with mutual consent.
• husband will not exercise his option of another wife
• husband is the leader of the family who will run the family in consultation with the wife.
• wife will not be required to work outside the home. If she chooses to work, she will be not be stopped from it and she will not be required to share that income for the family needs.
• wife will not work to earn money without the consent of husband.
• wife will be solely responsible for homemaking.
• children will be raised as Muslims in home and through Islamic education.
• home will be run Islamically as described in the Quran and Hadith
• Children will not be taken to church.
• A court granted divorce will be considered, Islamically, a first level of Talaq (divorce), which has a room for remarrying the same person without any condition.
• husband or wife will facilitate each other’s Islamic work and will not stop each other from it.
• in case of a dispute, husband and wife will appoint one person each to arbitrate between them
• if either husband or a wife suggests marriage counseling, the other party must agree to it.
• husband will not ask wife to stop her Islamic practices like Hijab
• if anyone indulges in Haram (what is forbidden), it will be an acceptable ground for divorce.
• in case of divorce, children will be with Muslim spouse and will be raised Muslims.
• in case of any spouse’s death, the surviving spouse will be responsible for the distribution of inheritance according to the Islamic law.
• family will not move out to another country without mutual agreement.

Love

 

At first glance you think why would they be holding each other like that in front of the kabah but do not judge for you know not…Look carefully, he is standing on one leg and his wife is helping him. May Allah reward them and grant them janatul firdaus. Allahumma Ameen. Very sweet picture mashaAllah ♥

Can You Marry Without Parent’s Permission?

can a boy and a girl can marry without the permission of their parents ? if their parents delay their marriage without any solid reason ?

According to the Hanafi Madhab, an adult male and female has an independent right to marry. 

The consent of the parents is not necessary for the validity of the marriage. However, it is advisable not to marry without the blessings and Du?aa of one?s parents. The negative consequences of marrying without the parents blessings may be more than delaying the marriage. 

and Allah Ta’ala Knows Best 

Mufti Ebrahim Desa

Give Zakat/Charity to Husband?

The ruling on paying Az-Zakah to the poor Husband

Question: Is it permissible for the women to give the Zakah of her wealth to her husband if he is poor?

Answer: It is permissible for the women to give the Zakah of her wealth to her husband if he is poor due to her generality of Allah’s statement: Verly As-Sadaqat(Az-Zakah)is only for the fuqara'(poor) and the Masakin (needy)… [1] This is in order to eliminate his poverty.1.At-Tawbah 60

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